Three Oaks United Methodist Church
Monday, October 18, 2021
You Are Welcome!
 
THE PARISH POST
Volume 37 - Issue #5   
11:00 a.m. Worship Service

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“Blessed are those who trust in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its ROOTS by the stream.”  Jeremiah 17:7-8

“Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on WINGS like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:31
 
Roots and Wings
Participants in our Sunday morning Bible Study class often share with one another about the things happening in our lives. Recently we found ourselves in a discussion about the challenges we all face in being parents. Some of us have children who are teenagers, some have young adults just recently out on their own, and some are now grandparents. Yet, wherever we find ourselves along this continuum, it seems we have more in common than not. 
 
Even if it has been many years since the umbilical cord was severed literally, there is still a bond that continues between the generations. Sometimes this bond brings us great joy; other times it brings us deep pain. And, for all the times in between, we experience a vast array of emotions. . . frustration, guilt, embarrassment, wonder, silliness, and peace. Parenting is certainly not for the faint of heart!
 
Though I don’t know any perfect parents, most seem to try their best. Someone wise once said: “There are only two lasting things we can give our children. One is roots and the other is wings.” The roots are to keep them grounded; the wings permit them to soar to new heights.
 
While children are living at home, most of our attention is focused on putting down roots. We recognize our responsibility to provide physical necessities such as food, clothing, health care, etc. At the same time, we know that other dimensions of their wellbeing are every bit as important. We seek to provide a stable, loving home life. We are concerned that they develop positive self-esteem. We encourage them to form good friendships.
 
Doing what we believe to be in our child’s best interest is not always easy – there is often “push-back.” Still, we persist – serving vegetables instead of candy, expecting them to participate in chores instead of spending all of their time in front of the TV. It would be a rare parent who hasn’t received more than a few complaints about his or her rules and expectations. I would contend that if children are pleased with every decision made by the adults, then the parents may well be shirking their duty.
 
In fact, one of the best compliments I ever received was disguised as criticism. One of our boys was telling me about a kid at school who seemed to “have it made” because his parents exerted very little control over him. My son told me that this boy is very intelligent. I was somewhat surprised by this information since I’ve never seen that name on the school honor roll. Then this explanation was offered, “Mom, he’s really smart. He could easily get straight A’s if he had someone like you at home making him do his homework.” (I suppose that is kind of a back-handed compliment, but I’ll take it.) 
 
For sixteen years now, we have been focused on giving our boys “roots.”  That task is not over yet, though I am starting to recognize it will be wrapping up in a just a few short years. Before you know it, the boys will be getting ready to stretch their “wings” and fly from the nest.
 
In the meantime, we are in a phase of transition between dependence and independence. They aren’t little boys any longer who need us every minute. However, they aren’t fully grown men yet either. Day by day, more signs emerge that the butterfly is getting ready to break out of the “cocoon.” Last month brought a series of “firsts:” first solo drive, first job interview, first date.
 
For many moms and dads, the hardest part of the parenting journey is letting the offspring test their wings. Part of us wants to hold them back, perhaps out of concern for their safety, perhaps with a bit of personal selfishness mixed in – not knowing what the next chapter will be like for us. But what is the point of giving them wings, if we don’t ever allow them to take flight? Mature parents realize that we are supposed to work ourselves out of a job in the end. This is how it is meant to be.
 
Fortunately, we are never completely on our own as we go through these parenting challenges. God, our ultimate Parent, assists us every step of the journey. And in the Scriptures we discover that God also provides us with the roots and wings we need.
 
Happy Mother’s Day to our mothers. Happy Father’s Day to our fathers. And may we all rejoice in the blessings of God that come through our families.
 
Pastor Sherri
 

Our Prayer Concerns
  




 
 
 
 
 
 
 






























Those who serve as Missionaries, Especially:
Jeff & Deliegha Swanson,
Charissa, Lois, and Titus in Mexico.
 
 
 

Those who are in the Military, Including:
Brad Bellaire
Rick Martin
Brandon McCombs
Jerry Peters Jr.
Nathan Phillips
Dustin Smith.
  
 
Those who are in Nursing Homes:
Barney Fay  (West Woods)
Tecla Kaiser (River Ridge)
 
 
 
 



Those who are Homebound:
Dorothy Brayboy
John Desmond
Lloyd Gearhart
Nan Klinedinst
Rose Lee
Kathryn Renbarger
Marjorie Weller
Thais Williams
 
 
Those who Grieve
Families and Friends of . . .
Virginia Bueghly
LaMonte Hemphill
Gordon Noble
Mary Payne
Mildred Pinter,
Angie Schmaltz
Martin Strefling
 
 
Other
Those who are seeking employment.
Thom & Lisa Schmit, Corrie & Peter in China.
 
Please note: Names will be deleted from the above list after
one month unless an updated request is received.
 
Address for Cards and Visits:
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 


Congratulations to. . .
 
Braeden & Jodie Wilson at the birth of a daughter, Marie Noelle, on April 2. The big brother at home is Grant. Grandparents are Bruce & Jeanie Hauch and Great-Grandparents are Jerry & Esther Thomas.
 
Roy Dale & Nicole Hamilton at the birth of a daughter, Ava Marie, on April 27. She joins big brothers Andrew and Bryce at home. Grandparents are Ed & Dawn Hayes.
 
 
Sympathy
 
We extend our sincere sympathy to Nancy Caid on the death of her mother, Virginia Bueghly, on April 13. Virginia was 94 years old. She married her husband on Easter Sunday, and passed away 74 years later on the day after Easter. May your hearts be comforted by the knowledge that she is with the risen Lord.
 
We further extend our sympathy to LaVern Noble on the death of his brother, Gordon, on April 6. May the Lord comfort your family at this time.
 
   
 
Congratulations!
 
We rejoice in two recent baptisms in our church. 
 
Abigail Henrich was baptized on April 5. Abby is the daughter of Dan & Lisa Henrich and granddaughter of David Schlundt.
 
Jude VanTilburg was baptized on April 26. Jude is the son of Tim & Kandace VanTilburg, grandson of Chuck & Julie Sittig, and great-grandson of Les Lee and Lucy Lee.
 
May the Lord bless your families at this special time.
 
 
Join Us
 
The National Day of Prayer is Thursday, May 7. The River Valley Ministerial Association will offer a brief service at the Three Oaks Village Hall (14 Maple Street) at 12 Noon. Prayers will be offered for our governmental leaders, military troops, schools, churches and others. Join us as we give some time to honoring God at this annual event.
 
 
 
 
Prayer Study
 
Our study of the book “Too Busy NOT to Pray” meets on Sunday mornings from 9:30 to 10:30 in the pastor’s study. It will continue through the month of May. All are welcome!
 
 
 
 
 
 
Mother & Daughter Banquet
 
Our church will host a Mother & Daughter Banquet on Monday, May 4, at 6:30 p.m. for all the women of our congregation and their loved ones. (Please note the change of time from earlier announcements.) Plan now to bring your mother, daughter, grandmother, granddaughter, sister or friend. Everyone is included!
 
A musical program will be provided this year by Dennis Michaels, a.k.a. Dennis Hoag of New Buffalo. Our menu is Mexican fare. The men of our church are preparing and serving the meal, under the guidance of “master chef” Dave Hess.
 
Check out the sign up sheets in the narthex, both for guests and helpers. It’s sure to be a good time!
  
Please Note
 
Our Summer Worship schedule will begin on June 7. Services will be held at 10:00 a.m. for June, July, and August with Children’s Church at 10:15 a.m. Our adult Sunday morning Bible Study will take a break for the summer months.
 
 
Sports Update
 
More High School basketball news came out after the publication of our last Parish Post. Congratulations to Troy Robertson on being named First Team All Conference (Red Arrow) and honorable mention All State. Way to go!
 
  

Concert
 
Harbor Harvest Urban Ministries’ Spring Fundraiser featuring jazz singer Edye Evan-Hyde in concert will be May 17, 7:00 p.m. This will be held at The Citadel Dance and Music Center (91 Hinkley Street, Benton Harbor). Tickets cost $25.00 and may be purchased by calling (269) 926-4214. All proceeds will benefit the Summer Exploration Program for inner-city youth. For more information see their website at www.hhum.org .
 
 

  

Thank you to. . .
 
. . . Rick Cooper, Sheila Swanson and Laura Donner for working in the nursery on Easter Sunday when our nursery attendant was in Mexico.
 
. . . Madison Vollman for reading so nicely at our Maundy Thursday service.
 
. . . Jim Thompson for hanging a new picture in the parlor.
 
. . . Doug Hinman for mounting speakers in the choir room, hanging a mailbox by the Sycamore Street door, installing a new faucet in the kitchenette, and doing some electrical work in the sanctuary.
 
. . . Bill Swanson for replacing the corroded battery in our electric piano.
 
. . . Doris Krossovitch for providing decorations in the narthex for St. Patrick’s Day, Easter and Pentecost; for setting up new attractive containers for our missions collections (Campbells, Spartan, Box Tops for Education, and pop tabs); and for trimming LOTS of labels so they could be sent in.
 
 
Haiti News
 
 
Our Missions Committee is collecting School Kits for Haiti to take to Annual Conference June 4 – 7. Please bring these supplies to church before May 24 and place in the box in the narthex. We will dedicate these kits on May 31 during worship.
 
All items must be NEW.
Pads (or loose leaf) 8 ½” x 11” ruled paper (not spiral note pads)
Unsharpened Pencils with Erasers
Erasers, 2 ½”
Blunt-tipped Scissors (Rounded tips)
30-Centimeter Rulers
Small Handheld Pencil Sharpeners
Boxes of 24 Crayons (24 Count Only)
Construction Paper
 
In order to pay for shipping and the purchase of items that are not donated, we will also be glad to receive financial contributions. You may use a pew envelope and mark it “Haiti”. 
 
Congratulations Graduates!
 
We will recognize the accomplishments of the following young people at our worship service on May 17. Please plan to attend.
 
Graduating from New Buffalo High School:
Troy Robertson, son of Debbie Robertson and Gary Robertson; grandson of Allen & Beverly HarringtonCourtney Will, daughter of Victor & Kym Will; granddaughter of Sabra Lambert.
 
Graduating from Grand Valley State University:
Kerri Becktell, daughter of Dan & Julie Becktell
 
Graduating from Western Michigan University:
Colby Caid, son of Matt & Nancy Caid
 
Graduating from Calvin College:
Jill Hauch, daughter of Bruce & Jeanie Hauch, granddaughter of Jerry & Esther Thomas
 
Graduating from Albion College:
Keith and Kevin Zabel, sons of Chuck & Tammy Zabel and grandsons of Chuck & Ruth Ann Zabel.
 

If we have inadvertently left anyone off this list, please let us know in the church office.
 
The community is invited to attend River Valley’s Baccalaureate Service on Sunday, May 17, at 4:00 p.m., River Valley’s Commencement on Friday, May 29, at 7:00 p.m., and New Buffalo’s Commencement on Sunday, June 7, at 1:30 p.m.
 
 
Dear TOUMC,
Thank you very much for your kind words and prayers for our wedding and marriage. It was a beautiful day for us and we both were able to enjoy it. Thank you again for your blessings!
Love,
Adam & Amy Hinman
 
Adam and Amy’s address is:
449 Bayberry Pointe Drive, NW
Apartment F
Grand Rapids, MI  49534-4698
 
  
Cleaning Day Report
 
Our Spring Cleaning Day on April 18 was a great success!   Many tasks were accomplished, including: waxing woodwork, emptying pew envelope holders, removing wax from pew cushions, dusting light fixtures and checking light bulbs, cleaning ceiling fans, and changing air conditioning filters.
 
Special thanks to the following people who gave their Saturday morning to these efforts: Pat Dimmit, Sharon Flick, Doug Hinman, George Koebel, Ogden & Doris Krossovitch, LaVern Noble, Sue Rubeck, and Sherri Swanson
 
Many hands do make light work! 
 
Golden Cross Sunday
 
May 10 is Golden Cross Sunday. The special offering received on this day promotes health and welfare ministries within our  West Michigan Conference. Agencies which benefit from these funds are the Methodist Children’s Home Society, Clark Retirement Community, and Bronson Methodist Hospital.
 
There will be an insert in your worship bulletin on this day that will further explain these particular missions. Please consider how your gifts can support these concerns and give generously. You may use a pew envelope and mark it “Golden Cross”. 
 
When we serve one another, all of us are enriched.
 
 
 
Soul Sisters
 
Eleven ladies were able to attend the breakfast in Buchanan on Maundy Thursday; Mary Behrle was the speaker and she did a great job as always.
 
Last month we went as a group to see Shirley Hoadley and she appreciated our visit.
 
Our next meeting is Wednesday, May 27, at 2:00 p.m. at the church. All women are welcome to join us.
 
Crocodile Dock - Vacation Bible School
 
Get ready to take a romp through the swamp! This year’s community Vacation Bible School theme is “Crocodile Dock – Where Fearless Kids Shine God’s Light”. Each day we will have a ragin’ celebration in the bayou with songs, games, crafts, and snacks. Also, our favorite chipmunk, Chadder, will be back again.
 
VBS will be held at the Free Methodist Church (12 East Michigan Street) on June 22-26 from 9:00 a.m. to 12 Noon. All children ages four through those completing 5th grade are invited. Lots of help will be needed, especially as Crew Leaders. If you would like to volunteer please speak with Pastor Sherri.
 
So hop on a flat-bottom boat and drift on lazy, hazy waters under tall cypress trees – until the big adventure begins.    
 
Sign Up
 
We will be looking for special music over the summer months, beginning on May 31. Please sign up in the narthex to share your talents with the congregation.
 
Sisters in Faith
 
Our next meeting will be Wednesday, May 20, 7:00 p.m. at the church. Robin Ireland is scheduled to bring refreshments. She could use a helper if someone would like to team up with her. The Bible Study is “The Sinful Woman – I Beg Your Pardon"
 
 
Evangelism News
 
Our Evangelism Chairperson, Alex Renbarger, has been busy distributing brochures about our church all around the town. So far these have been placed at : the Post Office, Three Oaks  Pharmacy, Zabel’s Auto & Tire, Bella Villa Juice Bar, Viola’s, Big C Lumber, Graziano’s Pizza, New Buffalo Bank, and B’s Art Studio. If you can think of another place where they might be seen, please pass along your suggestions to Alex or Pastor Sherri.
 
 
 
 
 
Fellowship Committee News
 
A good time was had by all who attended the Easter breakfast. We had a nice crowd of about 70 people. Thank you to our Fellowship Committee for preparing such a wonderful feast.
 
 
Nothing But Nets
 
Our Sunday School mission project for this year, “Nothing But Nets”, is wrapping up. This is a global, grassroots campaign to save lives by preventing malaria – a leading killer of children in Africa. At this time, there is no consistently effective malaria vaccine, but for only a $10.00 donation an anti-malaria bed net can be purchased to protect a child in Africa.
 
Please turn in any coin collection cans you still have at home by the end of May.  Thank you for your help with this worthwhile project!
 
 
Spring Library Benefit
 
Library Friends of Three Oaks present “Woman Celebrating Creativity” Mother & Daughter Tea on Sunday, May 3, at 1:30 p.m. at the First Congregational Church (108 East Ash Street, Three Oaks). The program will feature author Whitney Ferre’The Artist Within: The Guide to Becoming Creatively Fit” and Samantha Lee, Miss Three Oaks River Valley 2009. Hats are welcome and there will be a prize for the best hat! Tickets are $15.00 per person and are available at the Three Oaks Library. 
 


 Thank you to everyone who purchased a plant for Easter. We had a nice selection this year and the sanctuary looked and smelled like spring.
 
Looking ahead, the choir will be singing through Memorial weekend and then, hopefully, we will have individuals or groups taking a part in the worship service. There is a sign-up sheet on the table in the narthex.
 
Beginning on June 7, worship service will begin at 10:00 a.m. I know it’s hard for some but there are others who like the earlier service.
 
Have a great summer.
Sharon Flick, Worship Chair
 
 
Camp News
 
Last chance to sign up for church camp. Registration money needs to be sent in by May 15. Please speak with Pastor Sherri by May 5 if you want to go and would like to receive a scholarship from the church.
 
 
 
 
 There is a Nice Collection of Greeting Cards for sale in the Narthex.  The Cost is $6.00 per box. Please make checks payable to the "Sisters in Faith". . .
 
 
Update for our Collectables
 
You will notice smaller and more eclectic containers which are initialed to indicate their contents. SP on the mini milk-“can” is for Spartan UPC’s; TAB on the basket will hold can pull-tabs (aluminum only); any blue-tinted ones are of steel which we do not save. The ceramic shell is marked with a C and is for Campbell’s UPC’s, NOT entire labels! The current Campbell’s UPC’s are accompanied by a child’s head with a hat and he or she holds a sign reading “Labels for Education”. A point value is also indicated on these small labels.
 
Many products are also part of the Campbell group, including Prego Sauces, Campbell's Soups and Juices , V-8, Marie’s Dressings (safety seal lids), Vlasic Pickles (lids), Pepperidge Farm (UPC), Franco-American, Swanson Foods and Recipe Pet Foods and Treats.
 
One last item we collect is for our local elementary school: the tiny “Box Tops for Education” and they go into the smallest container marked RV. 
 
Happy hunting and clipping and PLEASE clip them closely as you collect or before depositing at church.
 
Thank you!
Doris Krossovitch 
 
 
Remember Mom
!

Don’t forget your mom on Sunday, May 10, Mother’s Day! Bring your mom to worship with you. 
 
 
 
Pulled-Pork BBQ
 
Trinity Lutheran PTL presents a Pulled-Pork BBQ dinner on Friday, May 8, from 5:00 to 7:00 p.m. The dinner includes a large pulled-pork BBQ sandwich, pickle, chips and dessert for $7.00 and is available ONLY as carry-out, no eat-in service will be available. The church is located at 5791 Sawyer Road, Sawyer.
  
 
Historical Corner
Submitted by
Eleanor Desmond
 
The Gazette, November, 1930
Minister Leon Manning
 
"The Methodist Episcopal Church will present a play Sunday evening written by Mrs. Manning titled 'Broken Hearts, Broken Bones'. The offering will go to the Bronson Methodist Hospital. Performers will be Harold & Margaret Mayes, Leo Hellenga, Francis Merritt, Arthur Martell, Mary Duddleson (DeBoer), and Velma Renbarger (Berry)."
 
The Gazette, December, 1930
 
"A program of Christmas exercises will be held at the M.E. Church. Welcome by Phyllis Gearhart, story by Harold Renbarger, poem by Richard Hatch, and readings by Miss Faye Weller’s class. The 25 member choir will perform.
 
Remember to congratulate Mr. & Mrs. Joseph Lee on their 51st wedding anniversary."
 
After church some Sunday you may want to go to Witt’s Restaurant for chicken dinner, 75 cents or regular dinners, 40 cents.
 
Also, if you are looking for a Christmas gift, the Three Oaks Department Store has a nice selection of suede gloves, $1.50 to $3.50; silk hosiery, $1.50; winter underwear, $1.00 to $2.95. Ludtke’s just down the street has similar items for similar prices.  
 
If looking for a tasty new treat, try the new Velveeta Cheese, available at the local grocers.
 

May Anniversaries
 

 
 6th Richard & Yuriko Cooper
 
11th George & Sally Frye
 
19th Jason & Melissa Flick

20th Dan & Danielle Birochak
 
31st Tim & Kandace VanTilburg
 
 
 

May Birthdays
 
   2nd Coco Heim
 
   3rd Mike Becktell
 
   6th Jerry Thomas
 
   8th Shawn Gedert
 
   8th Martha Spychalski
 
 14th Bill Ross 
 
 15th Brian Terry
 
 18th Mark Peterson
 
 19th Steven Seifert 

 
20th Lucie Behrle
 
 20th Kelsey Jakeway
 
 20th David Schlundt
 
 21st Clay Frye

 
23rd Brad Hauch
 
 24th Matthew Peterson
 
 26th Ed Hayes 
 
 28th Mike Jakeway
 
 29th Darla Hischke
 
 30th Caitlyn Cline
  
 31st John Foster
 

 
 
May Service Schedule

May 3
Holy Communion
“Spell Check”
Psalm 23
 
May 10
Mother’s Day
Golden Cross Sunday
“The Relationship That Gives Life”
John 15:1-8
 
 
 
May 17
Graduate Recognition
“A Nice Name to be Called”
John 15:9-17
                                 
May 24
Memorial Day Sunday
Bob Behrle Preaching
"Fortress of God"
 
 
Psalm 121:1-8
 
May 31
Day of Pentecost
“Son-burned, Wind-blown, Earth-stained”
Acts 2:1-8, 12